Don't let anyone tell you any different, being a step-mom is HARD! Some might think that it is easier than being a "real" mom, but the people that think that aren't step-moms.
When Jason and I got married almost 12 years ago, his amazing son Justin was part of the package. At the time I thought that I could love him like I was his real mom. Over the years I had my own children and realized that that I was mistaken. Don't get me wrong, I love the kid to death, and I don't love him less, I just love him different.
I think the hardest part is the lack of control you have. You get to do the dirty work, you get to drive to baseball practices and spend all of your evenings at baseball games, you get to discipline them and listen to them when they are upset about life, you get to make last minute trips to the store to buy poster board and dig in to your wallet when they need money for something. But, when it comes to the big Mom in the spotlight times you have no control over things: parent recognition at sporting/school events - bring in the real mom; Mother's Day celebrations - sorry, you're out of luck; planning graduation parties - you got it, the step-mom is OUT!
Now it may sound like I am whining, but really I am not. I am just pointing out the things that a non-step-mom probably doesn't realize.
There is something that I bet is harder than being a step-mom though, and that is sharing YOUR son with a step-mom. I am glad that I don't have to know how hard that is, and I hope never to find out!
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